10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[Joe46]

HP, I have been following this thread. This interests me alot because I started to think about how I would react if I received an email like that from my STBX one day. You sound like you are in a good place and I am happy for you. I have a daughter about the same age as your son.

I am no vet. But I do really like what Sandi said. I guess I picked up on some of the same things she did. My STBXW was very manipulative in our marriage and always avoided accepting responsibility. She would accept it on her terms. We are all adults here! She needs to put on her big girl panties and own it!! I also like zew's post. I think I can agree with them both.

After dealing with my kids emotional problems last night from our situation, if I were in your shoes, she would have to make a big commitment. You are not just dealing with you and your emotions, if things turn south again, your S has to go through all that crap again. To me, I would be willing to talk. But at that talk, I would want to hear those words " I am so sorry and I messed up and what do I have to do to work on things". Just my 2 cents!