Welcome. Your marriage as you knew it is dead. It is up to you to work on building the foundation of a new one. I like your phoenix analogy. That is exactly how you should think of it. Detachment is tough. I think about my wife all the time and sometimes it is too much to overcome. That is when I start pursuing and it never works out when I pursue. You do need to stop bringing up the relationship. She doesn't picture a relationship with you or future at this point. That is something to discuss when the relationship is better. I think you first have to rebuild a friendship with her. You can't fix her problems and you can't save her if you have been that person in the past. She will resent you for it. Keep posting updates!
Me: 33 W: 30 T - 12 M - 3 K - 0 BD - 6/14/15 Moved out - 6/14/15
