It sounds like your XW may be slowly seeing the fog lift to and that HP was not the source of all of her problems.
Keep on doing you, it has been working and will continue to work.
This brings up an important point. Well, TWO:
1. If this IC is as good and as challenging as you say she is, then HP's wife is likely to continue to make progress with her in terms of "doing the work" and realizing the full damage of her choices, and what needs to be done to make it right, no?
2. "Offers," or "cracks" such as yesterday's emails should not be seen as one-time opportunities, that if we don't respond juuuuust right, are forever lost to the sands of time. If your wife is truly repentant and desiring of working on reconciliation with you, she will continue to pursue that, and likely in increasingly satisfactory ways (see Point #1). And if she's NOT sincere, then you shouldn't touch the "offer" with a 10-foot pole.
