10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[gogofo]

Hi HP, I am OK. Thank you for asking.
Sorry to have bothered you.

This one got me as her fishing and playing the "poor me" card and trying to get a response. I assume she was wanting you to respond with "Oh, its okay. You are not bothering me." I agree with everyone else, she is fishing for control or trying to manipulate.

I left my XW with the position of if we try it needs to be only us, not and open relationship, and I need commitment. I also told her it is her move. She needs to show action. Until then I am not changing my interactions with her.

In the past I would have been broke down and so hopeful about the future again, not now. I guess I can learn something after a couple of tries.

HP I think we are waiting for the same thing, action. From there we can hopefully get into MC and work SLOWLY at reconciliation. My XW mentioned we needed MC to do this. I was surprised that she said it before I did as one of my conditions.

All of this can about because her IC told her to approach me about finding closure because everything else she tried was not working. After a some conversation I told her she has a "Gogofo" shaped hole in her and the D was not the solution to help fix her life. It was the wrong decision.

It sounds like your XW may be slowly seeing the fog lift to and that HP was not the source of all of her problems.

Keep on doing you, it has been working and will continue to work.