I know it is inappropriate due to the fact that he had fallen in love with his woman while having an affair with her & he is not setting up healthy boundaries to keep another affair from happening.... and I am totally planning to state all this to him. But am I willing to leave if it is just them chatting? Am I willing to stay in the relationship w/ the suspicion over my head that it could turn into an all out affair at any point (& I may or may not find out about it).
But if you clearly state that this particular relationship makes you very uncomfortable, and he chooses to maintain that relationship in spite of your discomfort, you set yourself up for a lot of misery, and he establishes that he's an accident waiting to happen...
