HP, pay attention to what Sandi, Starsky and Train are all saying here, and they are dead on in the analysis of your W. She's starting to see that her path is not great, but she is nowhere near committing to come back.
Your proposed answer was way too soft (IMHO) in that you say you aren't looking for a guarantee on the outcome of the R. We all know by now that there are no guarantees in anything, so don't even bother going down that path - it's a stroll through a minefield.
However, what you are looking for is commitment. Commitment is totally under your W's control and could be done immediately. As Starsky has often said, the feelings may take months to come back, but it doesn't take more than a minute to make the commitment to undertake the endeavor. And that commitment was totally missing in any of her emails.
What does it matter how she feels about this or that, wondering if you have a chance together, or how she hopes you can eventually be friends, blah, blah, blah. The last thing I would want to do is have a meeting with her to talk about stuff like that. If, on the other hand, she were telling you she was committed to making a R work, and specifically saying what she is doing to ensure that the goal will be reached, well that's a talk worth having.
So, you should respond so as not to appear to be ignoring her. But keep it simple, and in line with what you need, which is a commitment. And I wouldn't spoon feed her the commitment you need if you want it to really come from her.
By the way, you sound great, in control, and being off the AD's is good, too.
