10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[sandi2]

Here's what I see. She continues with her master manipulation. Check it out in her email 4 hrs later when you didn't respond as quickly as she wanted.

I'm really sorry I even sent you this email. it was wrong and probably not the best thing to do given your silence. I guess I was simply having a moment of sadness after my session yesterday and really shouldn't have dumped anything on you. I have no right to think that you would ever want to remotely talk about us and since I'm certainly in no position to offer you any guarantees ... why would you want to.? I won't reach out to you and bother you about any of this again. take care of yourself.

Now every woman on this board knows what this gal is doing in that second email.

HP, look back at her first email. Although she admits she caused you and s12 pain, is she owning responsibility for breaking apart the family? Maybe it's just me, but it seems she is drawing you into her statements about how it's affected the boy. She even tried to be subtle about how "you" were the one who left (target shooting). As always, it's all about her feelings and she wants to talk it out..........which is nothing new. So I agree with your question of "what has charged"?

My sample response would be something along these lines.

"W, your words have not fallen on deaf ears. We all have suffered a great deal, and will need to make necessary steps to heal. At this moment, I can truthfully say that I would consider going to family therapy, or MC, provided all contact with OM has ended and he knows you won't return to the A. This a prerequisite to the possibility of becoming a family again, and you are the only one in the position to guarantee it. I can't say how long I may be able to wait for you to decide, for as you said, things have become more complicated".