I'm so sorry that he is acting like a monster. It's all about entitlement and what he wants and when he wants it. His pocket is being emptied of money and he's not happy about that. In his mind, he thinks that you are off getting your nails done and having a great time at a spa. He doesn't realize, nor does he care, that you aren't doing it. This thought has stuck in his mind and to show you that you aren't going to get every dime, he's taking charge of everything.

Yes, he should have advised you when he paid the bills. If he had, you wouldn't have requested funds to cover the mortgage. It's called communication and yet he fails at that when it comes to advising you of payments...but notice how he can go on and on about you "demanding" stuff from him.

Shut this man down! You can't reason w/an irrational idiot. Notify your attorney and send all of the emails to him/her and let the attorney handle this stuff. Why doesn't your attorney pick up the phone call his attorney? That would take you out of the loop of trying to rationalize w/the idiot.

Please, please stop getting text message discussions w/him. All it does is spin him up and he gets off on that stuff and it stresses you out. Leave it in your attorney's hands to deal with. That is what you are paying the law firm to do.

Now, please breathe and try to keep the focus on you. You need your strength to help you heal.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.