Taming the wild MLCer is probably one the hardest things we will ever do. I feel you are doing the right thing. There are a lot of similarities in all MLCers which we can all share advice for. It is the subtle differences that can only be done on an individual basis. I have done small consistent changes these past few months that are paying off. Your idea to ask how he is doing is great, just be sure to do it consistently. At first he may not even respond. Don't give up. Eventually he will give a short response. That will then be followed by times where he will try and continue the conversation. That will be your clue it is working. I think that some MLCers need us to do the initiation so they can save face. It might be their stubbornness or that they are not people who ever initiates things comfortably. Either way, deep down they appreciate the effort on your part and will eventually respond. This, like everything else will have its push and pull, but will eventually work.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
