10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

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HP! Been wondering about you. Nice to see you back here (if you know what I mean).

So I'm not vet, but I had a similar reaction to Train and Toots (perhaps it *is* a girl thing). The thing is, women need to talk through their stuff in order to figure things out. Men, well you go off into your caves and figure it out (or not) on your own. The thing that terrifies me the most about DBing is that I am an LBW with a WAH...I'm in the dark and just can't ever see him turning round and expressing that he made a mistake even if he comes to the conclusion that he did.

If I were an LBW who wanted to R - then as a woman - I think this is exactly how I would do it. Write an email laying it all out and asking if we can talk. I would try to word it carefully but it may not stand up to the scrutiny of dozens of LBH who are reading between the lines!

I think she did answer your question but in her own words. It was not the answer you were looking for, but it does reflect her views of how her feelings have changed.

I suggest a softer approach. Not wet noodle by any means, but one that honestly reflects your position:

"XW. I appreciate your being open with me yesterday. I thought about what you said and given all that has happened it is hard for me to imagine a way back from here. That being said, if you genuinely feel that you are ready to talk about being a family again - and all that that would involve - then I am willing to listen."