A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

[DifRent]

Wow... before I went to dinner, I went to throw some things in the recycling bin. For the second time in a week, I found some of my books in there! She's been purging, and I forgave the first incident as simply a mistake... even though one of the books was my high school yearbook. But today? I was just livid, and had to call her...

She answered, clearly in the checkout lane of a grocery store. I said, "Look, this is the SECOND time I've found MY things in the trash. I'm about ready to dump the whole bin in the driveway to see what else of mine might be in there..."

"Don't do that!" she said. "I promise you, that's all that was in there. I was wondering if they were yours, but figured it didn't matter. Because they were hidden. And you'll never guess where..."

I really have NO IDEA how "hidden" things are fair game for the trash, but I knew exactly where these "gay themed" books were... in a storage footstool in our bedroom.

Why were they there?

Because a year and a half ago, I put every photo, book, document, etc. I could think of that might "give us away" as gay in that footstool when her "prone to snooping" (as she described him) brother, sister-in-law, and nieces - who are Albanian, have no idea my W is gay, and barely speak English, btw - just decided to visit for immigration purposes while my W was in Afghanistan, and I had to entertain them. For three weeks. With the language barriers, and their lack of understanding about our relationship.

Yes. I did all that. And she left me anyway.

And then... threw out my books.