I have decided I will reiterate my boundary to XW in the morning just to let her know the crack is there. Something like...
XW. I appreciate your being open with me yesterday. I thought about what you said and, if we did talk, I wouldn't expect you to guarantee anything to me for quite some time (and it would be difficult for me to guarantee anything as well). But, the actions I would need to see before we talk have not changed. If you're ready to commit to those actions, then I am willing to talk with you about us. Just let me know.
Is that good? Reading it I'm not sure. I'll sleep on it.
Good night.
Me: 44 W: 45 S: 11 Married: 15 Together: 18 BD: 9/29/2014 OM discovered: 10/16/2014 I left her behind: 12/14/2014