(((hugs))) to you Kat. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.
I feel like you do sometimes where I have a bad day, dump on someone else my troubles, and then learn of someone else going thru something much worse. But you are sharing your feelings and the pain that you were going thru - and this has to be a good thing, right?
We can't all be machines, or superstar DB advisers (like you). Sometimes we open the door to others and hope a stronger R develops. You have my best wishes for getting thru the big jobs at work, and that your friend's family member gets better.