Forgot to mention one important detail: on Saturday H. said "we are going to have to talk about this sitch soon." I calmly said "sure, let me know when."

Then this sqeaky clean person came out. I do feel like he is buttering me up for something. Maybe he will ask for apt. again? Announce existence of OW? I do feel like he is laying down good feelings between us before this conversation takes place.

I assume no matter what he tells me to STFU, respond not react and validate anywhere I can?

Also, H once told me that in his teen years his mother worked so many hours to support them (his father was a deadbeat) that she was never home. He said he had his run of the place and he loved it. I remember saying "wasn't that lonely?" He insisted no. But he has subsequently commented that our home became lonely and he wanted an apartment. Wondering if he's looking to go back and face that time and if that's why apartment is so important?

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced