I am guessing sence of humour and to have fun have to be fairly high up on the list Please can you guide me you say I need to set Specific goals
Ok so how about this Goal I want to spend more time with my children Action change my working schedulal and make sure that I do not book lessons in before 9:15am so I can do breakfast and see the kids to school thats a start. Is that all you want though...? To have breakfast? What about the QUALITY of time you spend with them? Do you want to go new places....do new things, etc.
Goal to do more housework Action discuss today with paula the things she hates to do I agree that I will do the ironing and load and unload the dishwasher I also agree that I will put on a load of washing and transfer it to the dryer she said she is happy to put it into kids rooms or away i assume that's your wife. If so...NO. that's just doing what SHE wanted from you. I think you need to zoom out. "Do more housework" isn't really a change in YOU, is it? WHY didn't you do the housework before? What is the root of this? As for the actual chores, don't just do the things she hates, just if you see something that needs doing, do it.
Goal to become more healthy Action I am about 3 to 4 stone overweight always have been , I am eating more healthy meals and trying to do more exercise what EXACTLY is this goal? How can you measure "eating more healthy"? Set yourself a GOAL - I want to lose 10 kg by Oct 1 or something.
Goal to coexist in the same house for as long as we can bringing happiness to our children Action keep calm in the house not argue in front of children your goal is not to coexist in the same house. Your goal is to treat your wife as she wishes. Your goal is to control your emotions. Right?
Does this sound. better
I know I will make mistakes along this journey but will learn with each mistake it is not about failure it is more about never giving up and being open to change
this is a start. But is that it? You have this time to really focus inward and make changes. what about getting a life? What about other personality traits? What else do you want to improve about yourself? Now is the time to do it!
