It's all about how you change. Do you know what the majority of women find the most attractive in men? If not, why not start there, and find out. (Not by asking her).
I'm not saying you should not consider what your W likes or dislikes, but I am saying you need to be the man you want to be, first. Otherwise, you will find yourself just being a puppet....which is a "yes, dear" man. I have never known a woman who was attracted to that type of man.
You need a plan of action. Write it down. Set goals and write them down. It's not enough to just say you are working on changes. It's too general. Be specific. What are those changes and what behavior has taken its place? Know what I mean?
I am hoping you will start thinking differently, okay? You need to have a different attitude and outlook about your future, as well as your present situation. This is not hopeless, and that is not the message I am giving. I want you to see from the WAW's perspective. I said what I did in the previous post to hopefully cause you stop going down cheese-less tunnels. I want you to search for a different tunnel to take. There's cheese, just not where you're going at the moment.
Until your mental attitude changes, your behavior will be self-defeating. You are watching her and trying to please her. You are knocking yourself out trying to do, what you think it is she wants. Truth is....you don't know what she wants, do you? You're grasping at straws b/c you are scared to death. You are a newcomer and have a lot to learn. You have not said anything we have not heard/read thousands of time, so that means you're a normal newcomer. I'm just asking you to be open to the idea of a different way than what you may have originally thought, b/c that clearly is not working too well.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
