A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

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Okay Cali... got the opportunity to email a truth dart this morning in reference to how the W is distancing herself even from the kids. I know it's the OW who is encouraging her to reframe the language and ditch us all. And I wanted to make a point.

I emailed my W last night, as I mentioned, about our older son's birthday dinner this weekend. Made it clear the kids could only do something late on Friday, but if she didn't want to do it, just let me know. She wrote back...

"Regarding S20's birthday, I do have plans for Friday starting at around 7pm so I was thinking of cooking dinner (pizza) earlier and having a quick celebration. I want however to make sure that we do not give the impression that this is a 'happy family celebration' because that is not true. I am doing this out of respect for you and the fact that the boys do need to feel that they have some support."

I wrote back...

"Two things: one, you're right. We're not a happy family. We're a broken family - because you walked out on us. You can't make a commitment and call people your family, as recently as two months ago, and then just decide they aren't your family, no matter what anyone else says or encourages you to profess.

"Two, thanks for the offer on the pizza, but I don't think you read the email correctly. The boys work until 8, so although making pizza early works for you, it doesn't work for the guest of honor or his brother. We'll do something else."

I am not sure I've responded so succinctly to her nonsense before. Email is good - we can't fight, so my words sit there and linger longer.

She's not here this afternoon, won't be here tonight, I'm sure. Guess I was wrong that she'd be around more often this week, but I have no complaints, really. A friend is coming over to take me out to dinner. I appreciate how he looks after me.