Here is a brief description of what "friends" may look like to rational people:
"Signs of a Good Friend
Friends will come and go in your life, but more important than how long a friendship lasts, is that a good friend will love you for who you are. The way you can tell the sign of a good friend is by looking at the actions they take –big and small – that show they care.
Some common signs of a good friend include:
someone who will support you no matter what someone you can trust and who won’t judge you someone who won’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings someone who is kind and has respect for you someone who will love you because they choose to, not because they feel like they should someone whose company you enjoy showing loyalty being trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard someone who can laugh when you do someone who is willing to stick around when things get tough someone who makes you smile someone who is there to listen someone who will cry when you cry.
My interpretation of the "Signs of a Good Friend According to the MLCer:
someone who is willing to be a f@ck buddy, i.e., friends w/benefits w/o giving anything in return someone you contact only when you want something someone you don't respect, but tolerate because you want something from them someone who is a friend today, but not tomorrow someone you have no ties to whatsoever but will contact you when they want something someone who isn't going to challenge and/or question the MLCer on their irrational behavior someone who wants to have a good time, party and spend money like water and doesn't care about the consequences of their actions someone who will accept the MLCer as they he/she is today, no questions asked someone who listens to the MLCer and encourages them in their behavior, not only the party and spending behavior, but to take their spouses to the cleaners someone who will help the MLCer create ways to annoy the spouse and help the MLCer any way that they can to annoy the spouse (this does happen in some cases)
In other words, when a MLCer says let's be friends, the friendship is not a deeper reliable, trustworthy friendship. It's a very shallow friendship whereby the MLCer only wants to be friends w/you when it suits their needs and when they need those needs met. Being friends w/a MLCer is a one way relationship....their way.
I'm sure others can come up w/more examples...but this is my list of what shallow friendship is all about.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
