When in MLC, they go back the time that they were emotionally stunted and grow up from there. Therefore, if your h is acting like a young teenager, it's not a surprise. You become the authority figure, which means "mom" or someone who oversaw his upbringing. He will eventually not see you as a wife, but a mom and/or a friend. The term "friend" that they talk about is not what we consider as a friend.
Since you have children, your h may become jealous of the attention that you shower your children with. This is very normal. Also, your h may become great pals w/one child and not the other. Why one child? It will be the child that doesn't question and/or challenge him on his behavior. This is normal behavior.
If he is following your lead, then he is possibly thinking of himself as 12/13 or even younger and/or older, but is looking to you as mom and doing things w/mom. BTW, if he's telling you things that he's doing, he's checking in w/mom. If he's telling you of things that he's done around the house, he's looking to mom to recognize his good work and wants affirmation for what he's done. Be sure to acknowledge his accomplishments. It is important to him.
If you do go away, enjoy yourself, but don't expect him to be the man you once knew. As you travel this path, you are going to catch glimpses of many personalities. They wear invisible masks to see which one suits them.
Stay the course. Keep the focus on you and your children. Repeat often: I didn't break him, therefore I can't fix him". Your h is the only one that fix himself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
