Need advice for a WW who left

[dwh15]

So I met with my attorney this morning and gave him the full story of what has been going on. Based on my description of the past few months, he said I have a very strong case for nearly 100% custody of all the children and will not be responsible for much spousal support either. As opposed to the $900/month I have been providing, he speculated closer to $300 or $400/month max. He also confirmed again I have no legal obligation to give her a dime until someone files for D and a temp court order is issued. So for now, I'm playing the waiting game. I'm in no rush to file because that starts the ball rolling and then it's only a few weeks until a support order is in place. I'll let her raise the money to hire her own attorney and then come up with the $230 to actually file. It won't change anything and I'm ready to fight if/when necessary.

On an unrelated note, my W unexpectedly drops by today, walks right in with no invitation and starts rummaging through the house looking for some old medical paperwork. It really upset me that she didn't ask for permission or even give me a heads up she planned on coming over. She still tries to treat this as her home. I played it cool while she was here, told her I had no idea where that paperwork could be, and worked on dishes while she searched around. She left 10 minutes and I immediately called my attorney back and asked if I could keep her out. Not sure if it's legal since we're still technically a married couple with no other agreements in place. Even if he says I can't keep her out, I'm tempted to just fire off a text and say next time, please give me some notice before you come over. We've talked about it before and she had previously agreed but seems to be falling back into old habits, or simply doesn't care right now. I'm sure she's still extremely upset about me cutting off the money supply. Funny enough, when here today, she was all smiles and acting like everything was fine. Quite a change from 2 days ago when she was practically yelling at me about how unfair I was acting.