Yep. Very. But you're 5 months in, post-bomb-drop. The "toughness" of it at this stage should be more in the execution of your plan, than in the adopting of the right mindset. THAT should have been set months ago (not to say you won't have bad DAYS keeping the right mindset -- you surely will -- but I don't even sense you're accepted yet where you are, and adopted the proper mindset for DBing.)
Are you familiar with "The Stockdale Paradox?"
Starsky
I don't mean to take over Sad in WI thread... But I think it is so difficult because we were working on the marriage for about 3.5 months & things were going along really pretty well. We were closer than we'd been in years and years. Only after I damaged his trust & hurt his feelings did he stop working on us. So really it has only been 5 weeks of trying to figure out how to divorce bust. But I do admit I do not have a concert plan.
T: 14 M: 12 D: 9 S: 6 BD: 2/18/15 (H affair) Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15 Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15 H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15 H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15
