I guess I am at a crossroads. I need to decide if I continue to try DBing or quit and file for D.
Here is my take on that, filing for D - will get you just what you are asking for divorced. It will not be a tactic with her. You will still have the same exact problems that all of those that go through a divorce will have.
DB'ing is about learning new skills and being able to use them in life. So whether you are divorced, married or anything else you can not avoid learning about DB. If you do you will just cycle back to the start and go through this again later down the road.
I suggest you start with the homework and reading the book.
