Success! No text, no calls. I was able to get past the urge. I guess I need to go back to focusing on the basics...detach and STFU.
In 7 minutes it won't be my birthday anymore. Life can go back to normal...until the 23rd which is my 5 year W anniversary. Kind of freaking out on how to handle that day.
One day at a time...
Good job remaining strong and not TM her.
So the anniversary ... I went through 2 of them during this.
The first one (my memory [censored] and I never know if its the 16th or 17th) I dropped off S and she gave me 'that look' I ofcourse hug her and whisper "For what its worth Happy Anniversary" ... she hugs tight and says "Its not till tomorrow .. but thanks" I did have to laugh.
The second ... 15th Anniversary ... even though she was in the "Lets work on our M" mode ... I seen no point in celebrating a year of hurt and pain, how can you celebrate a marriage anniversary when one partner was active in an A for that year ... No gift, no card, no mention of it. She did bring it up but I shared how I felt and that was the end of the conversation. We did attend Retrouvaille 3 days later and it was there she acknowledged the hurt and pain and how wrong the A was.
Again ... you have to stand up for yourself a bit here and there, the WAS ... especially a WAW needs to learn to respect you.
My advice ... no card, no gift, no mention of it .. if she brings it up you can acknowledge it, if she doesn't you can still do your thing .. go out to a nice dinner alone and look back at the happy time you did have ... but do not pursue.
