I wanted to asked you how you manage to keep yourself from always thinking or wondering about someone elses actions. My point is this, I know what will help and hinder my progress, and for the most part I do a good job at staying the course. But then there are those times Like to today. W just got back from a wedding of one of our friends, and I got to watch the dogs, let me say I was super happy about that. I dropped the dogs off to her and I saw a bottle of Don julio 70, in her front seat I simply stated; wow nice bottle someone is gonna be happy. As I put the dogs stuff in her back seat she got out and said. Actually I bought it for you. She said she was shopping and knew I loved don julio and it was on sale. Now try as hard as I might that little thing starts creeping up in my mind questioning everything and why she would do that, etc.. it just confuses me soo soo bad. I know I shouldn't look into it more than she simply bought me my favorite liquor but how....? Thank you so much in advance.
I have the same struggle. When my H does something to indicate that he might be moving towards working on the marriage, I get my hopes up. Usually it is dashed not too long afterward when he does something to indicate that he is not wanting to work on the marriage. It seems I cannot learn to just keep myself in the middleI guess that is why detachment is good... so that you know you will be fine regardless. But I haven't quite gotten there. I want the marriage to work out so how to detach surrounding that is hard.
T: 14 M: 12 D: 9 S: 6 BD: 2/18/15 (H affair) Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15 Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15 H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15 H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15
