Heading toward affair- what to do?

[hopeOK]

Last night I remembered a groupon that my H had bought for us when we were working on our marriage... it is for a scuba diving lesson, something both of us are interested in but have never done (advice from the therapist to do something new for both of us to rebuild our bond).

In an effort to GAL, I thought I'd email him & ask him if I could just go & use it if he did not intend to use it b/c it would be a shame for it to go to waste. (It will expire soon.)

So he responded with this:

The Groupon that I bought when I thought we were working together to have a better marriage? The one that we were going to go do together because it was something neither of us had ever done? Sure. I'll print it out and bring it home today and leave it on your calendar. Please let me know when you plan to use it so I will know to plan something with D and S. I thought you were going to look for a sitter and we were going to go do it, but this really works better.

I responded with-

I was going to get a sitter… but I thought you would not want to do it with me anymore. Your actions toward me indicate that you are not interested in doing anything with me. Am I wrong in how I am interpreting all the things you have said and all the things you have done?


Good or no? I felt a ping of guilt when he sent his email... I do not want to be hurtful, but he is calling those shots here.