I would suggest that you select one only one person to talk to about your situation. That person will be your "support" system. When a person discusses their situation w/friends and famlily, they all have thoughts and ideas as to what you should do. They mean well, but they aren't walking in your shoes, and they want you to be happy and heal quickly, versus figuring out what you need to do for yourself on your time table.

I would suggest that you show your h w/actions that you are listening and are working on yourself. I wouldn't have any more discussions about what has happened and just be a friend. Actions speak louder than words. Okay?

Any changes that you make are for YOU. The changes you make are not to win him back. They have to be come permanent or else he's going to know that you are only doing it to convince him to return to the marriage. Make a list of things that you think you need to improve on yourself. Then start working on those changes, one by one.

If he makes comments about you are making them to win him back or for the next guy...don't engage. He's testing you to see why you are making those changes.

Bottom line, try to rein in your emotions and zip your lips and do not engage when he is baiting you.

Keep the focus on you and what you need to do to improve on yourself.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.