A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

[DifRent]

Woke up this morning with her not being here, and it's probably the first time this has happened where I definitely prefer it this way. Till now, it's been a miserable crapshoot either way... feels empty when she's here, feels empty when she isn't. I actually had a good night's sleep for the first time in a long time. I credit the job for no other reason than it's got me out of the house and in a bit of a routine, as well as the great support at my group last night, and on this board. I needed it. My PMA was absolutely shot yesterday.

I sent W an email last night requesting that she leave the garage door opener here, since I'm pretty much the only one who needs it now - and also to request that she get back with me about a birthday dinner for my older son that we mentioned last week she might cook... one of his favorites, Albanian pizza.

I'm curious to hear her answer. His birthday is Saturday, but both boys work that night. Friday night they can do it, but kind of late - and I know this will conflict with OW plans. If she refuses, and I think there's a good chance she will, it's no big deal... the kids are kind of fed up with her anyway. But she was very much present for my younger son's birthday less than two months ago. She wouldn't want to come across as caring about one son's birthday and not the other's. So she's in a spot and has to decide either where her priorities lie, or, more likely, which decision doesn't make her look bad!

I may be continuing to work on detaching from her, and letting those planted seeds take root. But at least I know I'm truly detached from her answer and the outcome on this one issue. I guess that's a step in the right direction.