Had the twins out in the living room and slept on the couch to take Care of them in the middle of the night so she could get rest.
Helped make sure she wasn't doing things she was restricted from, and making sure she took her meds on time. Tucked her in and gave her last medicine for the night, and when I was going out of her room she asked me to lay with her and cuddle for a bit. She fell asleep and I did as well, then woke up a bit later and went out to couch.
Told her goodnight and covered her up when I got up. Woke up 2 hours later and she was up and couldn't sleep. So hung out for an hour, talking and laughing and relaxing.
Overall a good night and way slower than I felt like I was moving. Said she almost feels like she is expected to change her mind. Told her that it is her choice,there is no pressure from me, I am OK if she changes her mind, OK if she doesn't, I am being the best husband, and father, and person I can be for me.
Commitment goals
I will be more honest when I am not telling white lies I am not limiting information I am being true to myself I am showing her my phone, my messages, my statements, my email Without her asking because I feel she deserves to see everything.
I am being faithful when I am not flirting I am not engaging members of the opposite sex I am choosing not to engage in online chat I am not creating or supporting an environment which enables previous behaviors.
I am being trustworthy when I am being congruent with my convictions by doing what I say I am telling her where I am going, who I am with, how long I am going to take, when I arrive and when I leave, so she knows what I am saying is what I am doing.
I am being caring when I am doing small things that she appreciates I am respecting her wishes I am listening and empathizing with her feelings I am giving her space when I sense she is feeling awkward of upset.
I am being loving when I am doing acts of service that I know make it easier being a mom I am accepting her and not judging or criticizing or complaining, loving her for her. I compliment her I acknowledge and give admiration for things she is doing great
I am being emotionally available when I am giving her my full attention I am listening with an open heart and listening fully before making a response I am putting myself in her side of situation and really trying to see it from her perspective I am expressing how I feel about a topic we are talking about. I am not shutting down or withdrawing. I am making eye contact I am not sighing, or making any of the sounds that make her think I am laughing at what she is saying.
I am being monogamous when I cherish my Wife I take her as my preference over something more readily available I don't engage in any act that is non professional with another woman. I remind myself of why I want to be with my wife. I continue to choose her to be the only woman in my life
I am more mindful when I consider how my choice will affect others before I make them I think how my decision will affect my life 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 months from now. I don't do anything that I know would hurt her. I suggest win/win solutions to problems
I am being more thoughtful when I am remembering small things that make her happy I am taking the time to plan and do things without her having to ask for them to be completed I am taking care of problems on my own that used to frustrate her I am playing songs I know she loves I am cooking dinner after she has had a long day already
Me:35 W:37; S17 D15 D15 D1 D1 M:9 years T:11 BD 5/2/15 W moved out with her D15 our D1 D1 6/15/16 W filed for divorce 6/19/15 W moved back in 7/11/15
