I have found myself in the same situation as many

[ATPeace]

25yearsmlc

I think the view from my wife's point of view if she was writing here would be something like this

I need some advice
I have been in my marriage for 17 years and together with my partner for 25 years he was my first partner and I was very yet when we first me

We formed our relationship by being together he liked me and I liked him and our affection grew

I did not have a very loving upbringing and I found the love and affection that he gave me filled me with joy.

We moved in together and then got married but he became more and more distant he would always be at work and then in the evenings he would either go off and play tennis or spend time in the office ignoring me all I wanted was to be told he loved me and to spend some quality time with him but he always put others first

The only time he wanted to be close to me with when he wanted something in the bedroom and I started to feel used I did not want to be just an Object for his needs

He did less and less with me and our children and he did not show them the love that he should have

Well three years ago I told him how unhappy I was and told him that if things did not get better then I would leave.

I got pregnant after getting back with him 3 years ago and sure enough he fell back into his old ways

Well I have been getting more and more sad over the last 3 years and I have had enough

After a recent row I decided t tell him that I want out this marriage

I know he is upset and I am too but I know this is the right decision for my own sanity

I think this is what she would be saying and in writing it things have become very clear to me just how much I have let her down

I want to be able to fix things but I know she does not want me to