Wife moved out and filed for divorce

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Your wife's behavior is very common with WAW. My wife also moved in with her single best friend. Her husband had also left her the year prior. She has all these new girlfriends that popped up overnight that support her new lifestyle. She has even distanced herself from her family because she doesn't want to hear common sense.

You are in full pursuit mode by the sound of it and need to pull way back and detach. You have seen first hand that pursuit techniques are not working. Joint counseling is not working. You need to give her some space and work on yourself. Go out and get a life. Read Sandi's 37 rules and commit them to memory. Stop initiating physical contact. Stop telling her I love you. You are pushing her farther away by doing this by the sound of it. Show her that you can be independent and that your fortunes have turned around. Your wife does not envision a future with you in it at this point. It will take time, patience, and work on your part to change this.