Sit and Spin IV

[HeavyD]

Ok -'I will work towards being not suspicious and just go with any efforts of niceness she offers. I guess the reasons don't matter. I will work on being a more of a go with the flow kind of person. I can do that.

Thanks for advice.

[Vanilla]

I am saying effusive and ebullient- no..

But "thanks WW, the kids and I were tired and the offer of the groceries was very welcome" HD

V

[HeavyD]

W sent photo text - "thanks for postcard! Thanks for sending it! Hi to kids!

So yes, I guess it was good to send it. It elicited a positive response.

Now - do I respond is that pursuit? Her last few texts have been very chipper - still she won't use my name or hers.

My draft - Glad you enjoyed it.

Anything else to suggest DB board??

[PigPen]

I'm too freaking tired to be of any assistance Heavy. I just wanted to hug someone.

Hugs,

PP

[HeavyD]

Hugs back to you PP!!

[HeavyD]

I will reply to her text tomorrow with something light and breezy - more upbeat.

"Glad it arrived in one piece, thanks for letting me know."

Gad, Who knew it woud be so hard to be light, breezy and confident? Does any of this get any easier with the passage of time? Man.

Onwards!

[Wonka]

Heavy,

Yep, it DOES get easier with time.

"Welcome...glad you enjoyed it. Will tell the kids you said hi. Have a nice day"

[HeavyD]

Done!

On the positive side - her texts are nicer and she uses exclamation points. At least that is better than a dead affect - no emotion, no names, no salutations or endings.

A small goal will be to see if we can actually address each other by our names in communications.

Thanks for the suggested wording.

Heavy

[WBM]

Heavy,

The use of exclamations in her messages seems to be a positive sign. My W didn't use any indicators of emotion in our communications and it was frustrating.

Hang in there - you are doing great, and there looks to be more positives in your communication from her than recently.

Hugs!

[CaliGuy]

Done!

On the positive side - her texts are nicer and she uses exclamation points. At least that is better than a dead affect - no emotion, no names, no salutations or endings.

A small goal will be to see if we can actually address each other by our names in communications.

Thanks for the suggested wording.

Heavy

Heavy ... been following along and have not felt much of an urge to post to you as I felt you are doing well and taking things as they as, as they come.... glad your Vaca went well.

This part ... Its not really Goal type material for you, sure you could call her by name but setting a goal that relies on a WAS and their actions is not really something one can achieve (Like me setting a Goal my W wears white shorts or kisses me more) ... you have posted a few times on this very topic and I know it bugs you ... again ... out of your control how she acts and addresses you.

Now if you set a goal to always use her name, sure ... possibly your WAS will follow suit ... but watch having expectations about that.