H and I started on a 30 day improvement plan. We are both working out everyday, keeping gratitude journals, and learning something new each day...right now we are watching the laugh your way to a better marriage videos, then we will move on to something else.
H and I started on a 30 day improvement plan. We are both working out everyday, keeping gratitude journals, and learning something new each day...right now we are watching the laugh your way to a better marriage videos, then we will move on to something else.
Just went back to read your original thread. It's just so insane how some of this stuff goes. Wishing you the best in your journey forward together. Keep going slowly. Scared squirrel, remember!
Teach, Just caught up on your sitch. The progress you have made in a short time is remarkable. Stay focused and resolute. Like PM said previously, you are an emotional rock. Way to go!
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
E today the video focused on how differently our brains are wired and how those differences can lead to unnecessary arguing. It was informational but also funny.
Matt and Defacto, thanks for checking in on my sitch. I am taking it slow on my side. It is still raw for me and my coach told me eventually I will have anger over the things he said and how he acted. Right now I'm just happy to be working together.
Mr. Bond thanks for stopping in! It would be my dream come true if he saw a therapist. H says he isn't opposed to going to a marriage seminar or intensive session, which is great but he would benefit greatly from seeing a therapist on his own. I have a therapist and he knows how much it has helped me. I pray he will eventually go.
IMHO, you should go to MC and then maybe that person can guide your H to seek help personally.
While things are going well, I am afraid he will go right back to the way he was because he isn't doing the work on himself to figure out what happened to him in the first place.
Honestly, I've seen VERY few M's here who have survived without some kind of C who guide the couple in the right direction.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Honestly, I've seen VERY few M's here who have survived without some kind of C who guide the couple in the right direction.
Hello Teach!
I haven’t been on the board much this week, so I’m sorry if it seems like a life-time ago that I checked in with you. As always, thank you for your support. It means so much to me.
MrBond is "spot on" with his comment. Between personal experience, friends, my IC, etc. even if you get to the point of "piecing" you need a certified MC to help you both move forward.
Hang in there and try to keep a PMA.
Take care.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Husband sent a text during this trip stating that he will be home on the 24th and he will be happy. Of course I don't believe it works like that. He couldn't stand NC from me and m son. My son is very angry with him and he basically told him he didnt care if he ever came back.
My H sent me a text saying he was sorry for hurting us, that wasn't his intention. I finally had a phone conversation with him and asked how did he think we would feel...he said happy. OMG! He is delusional right now. He said we will work on us but he doesn't want what we had. That hurt because it's been pretty good in my opinion, but right now it's all about him.
I'm just trying to validate his feelings but I am extremely worried about seeing him. I have worked hard on getting my emotions under control and I don't want to go back to where I have been.
I'm calling my coach as soon as I get back. I have to be prepared. I know this is going to be a process, I just hope I have what it takes. I don't know anyone personally whose husband has flipped a switch on them basically over night. I'm so thankful for this site and my coach.
Hello Teach3,
I'm so happy you have found this site and your DB Coach helpful!
It has been a while since you posted. What has been happening?
Cristy
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