Yay, small successes are so important and I am so glad that this success was with your darling daughter, I know you have been worried about her.
Lets too celebrate your recent move to becoming closer to being "unstuck", and I mean about your situation, not the potentially implied "mentally unstuck".
Where would we be without lovely Lady V to prompt us to ask the hard questions and dig deep. Cali too for that matter, his sense of clarity and emotional depth allows for a feeling of great empathy, but allows for great insight too!
As for me I am probably just a kind word kinda girl and a quick cheeky smile.
Your writing about your boundaries disclosed and undisclosed reminds me of a recent conversaton I had with my very first ex. We were talking about my lack of boundaries and "rules" as he refers to them. And he said in the only way he knows how "Jelly, you give so much in relationships because you give up all your rules about what you want and expect" and then wonder why you get resentful. Look Jelly us men- (referring to himself and new ex I think), will take everything you have to give and not question where it may leave you". Stick to your rules and you will be so much happier. I dare you to write your Rules out Jelly! " I then proceeded to tell him that right now I had no space in my head to figure out the "rules" I would have in my next relationship.
Freaks me out to even begin to figure this out, however your above comments, show me that you have been brave enough to enter down a path to explore anger and resentment, maybe I can do the same.
