Help By becoming the best you that you can be you are atoning and apologising. most WAS really want this for their spouse, who they see as in crisis.

Actions speak louder than words in the case of sobriety. 9 months is an amazing achievement please see that your sobriety is the biggest gift you can give her.

I made a suggestion to Pigpen if there is an AA (or other support) open meeting and you are collecting a pin, you can give a brief therapy about your thoughts. Apologise publicly to all you harmed and that you are working your path. Nothing unusual there for a therapy. Ask WAW to see you collect the pin. As much to know that Sobriety is a major factor in your life and you are really serious about staying that way. This worked for a GA (gamblers anon) member I know who wanted to attract back his WAW. He also wrapped his pin as a birthday present for his WAW (ahhhhhhh) with a card which said "this is how I feel about you, a gift of my most precious possession" (aaaaaaaaah).

He meant it too, that was 17 years ago, they are still together. No expectations though.

Thank you for your thoughtful and caring support on my thread, I value this so much.

V


Last edited by Vanilla; 07/15/15 12:54 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW