You really don't have anything to lose by slowing down, but everything to lose by pushing for more.
You don't need to be hugging her first - let her initiate and let her control things for a bit. You can respond but don't pursue or pressure her right now.
She's very emotional and the mood WILL change and you need to detach enough for when that happens.
How's your personal work going? Can you list some specific things you are doing to be 'more honest" and emotionally available and mindful, etc?
The more specific you are, the more authentic your changes will be and longer they'll last.
Good luck and keep us posted.
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