25yearsmlc thank you so much for going into so much detail this is really helping me matt777 thank you too infact everyone who got back to me is giving me the help I really need
25yearmic has hit pretty much everything on the head I do want to change and make these changes for me but right now I was hoping that the changes would be enough how wrong I was and thinking about it I can see how I would be wrong to even think she would change so not quite sure why I kept on
Not sure why you kept on making the changes OR not sure why you kept asking her to notice them?
If you are only making the changes for her to notice them, that's not authentic change and she knows it.
That means you will only become a "fake good" dad to get your w's return
and her fear is that the change is purely cosmetic, and as soon as she returns
you will revert to old ways.
Change and become the best man you can become, and best dad you can,
because it's the right thing to do. That just might have to be enough b/c the only guarantee here is that if you do the work
YOU will be a better, more loving man. That's a great goal as far as I'm concerned.
It has to be real, and not about her.
Dig deep. Be brave.
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