Imagine I said there was a 50% chance of her coming back. Now imagine I said there was a 5% chance. Now imagine I said there was NO chance.
Which one of these would help you heal fastest? Which one would allow you to grow into the person you want to be? In my opinion, the middle one.
In the top case, I would just sit around waiting and hoping things break right and I get lucky. In the bottom case, I'd skip the hard part of self reflection and self improvement and "heal" by throwing myself into a new relationship.
In the middle case, id work my ass off on myself, hoping that I get that chance and make it in the 5%.
The way they described it one can heal w/o jumping into another relationship--according to them clinging to any hope can prolong the self healing process Bc subconsciously you have that hope and each time it's let down it takes one several steps back on healing ...that minuscule 5% chance is nothing but a lie to oneself and can delay or hinder the progress of healing/improving and ultimately moving on .
I hope they'd be wrong but in my case my wife has proven she's already gone and has not turned back or doubted her decision
Last edited by Aj8; 07/14/1509:09 PM.
Me:35 W:30 7 years together 11 months married No children W Left me-moved to her moms: June 2015 W filed for D: July 2015
