New marriage over pt2--help she's filing this week

[Aj8]

Matt I want my wife back but it's not going to happen and I can heal faster not holding on to this "hope."

So It was a group session with three marriage counselors , after hearing my story and my wife's actions/words they all agreed it's past being angry ,she has shown she knows what she wants , out of the marriage, no turning back.

I told them about DB, they said in my situation with nothing linking us together longterm(kids, property,etc.) her detachment is easier and she's shown she's moved on .

They said DB is healthy in that you do positive changes for yourself and hold hope the W (or H) will come back but in all reality as one improves themselves and detaches, etc., and the spouse doesn't come back , you've already gone through the "healing" process and can move on . They summarized DB as therapy to move on . In my case I can see where they are right , wife has made no attempt to even talk/see me and the speed of her filing/moving out , announcing to everyone (including fb) reinforces that . well on to healing