As far as how to stop your pleading to W, you have to come to the realization that nothing you say right now will have any impact on how your W feels. Your W will have to come to her conclusions by herself. I would think constantly stating your case makes you appear weak and unattractive to your W.
Thank you this is so true
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.