legally separating

[beckyb]

I am 53, H is 48. 2nd marriage for him. Grown kids. We have had our ups and downs but I never ever thought this would happen. Everyone we know if shocked.
In the last 2 years H has lost both parents, had several surgeries due to chronic pain and had prostate cancer surgery. He has been off work a lot. He has a history of depression. I will admit that many times I have been more of a mother than a wife, sometimes out of necessity.