Only text today was that we overspent and I was transfering money! He said last night he was going to OW sons ball game tonight and wanted to take his kids. I simply said no its ok I will go do something with them. He said that is not what he wants he thinks it would be fun to take them. I said no we agreed the kids would not be involved in the situation he stated they werent they dont hug or anything with kids around. I do not believe him, we agreed when he asked me to stay in march that they would not be around it until i moved out. I feel this will protect the kids. i do not want them hurt or confused because they will lose one of us in their lives be it me or OW. So GAL plan today is swimming until at least he leaves for game. we will be gone before he gets here and I will make sure we are not back until he is gone. I asked if he was eating supper here and he said if we ate before 530 i simply said nope that is fine. So i would normally wait until he gets home to eat but tonight i am just going to make dinner for the three of us and he can eat left overs or make something. I will no longer cater to him. Ralphy I know you suggest doing nothing with him but we are going to races with my daughter thursday and sunday his mom is throwing him a graduation party so I will have to attend as his mom is the only one in his family who knows what is going on. so if i dont show up more confusion and hurt for the kids. After this week though the only thing I will consistently do "with" him is take the kids to the races on saturdays. He goes to the other side (pits) with OW and I take kids to grandstands. I DO NOT take them over to see him after the races and I am going to inform him I would like him home half hour after the races. (why should I have to watch the kids for him to hang out with her until 1-2 in the morning) If the kids are here he needs to be home in my opinion. I will continue going to the races so the kids can see their dad race I feel that is important and I actually LOVE racing so its a nice night out for me. I usually go to the fence and wave but I think I may only do this once in a while not every night like I have been. I NEED TO DETATCH! super hard living together with all of his mixed signals! but I can do this! Off to re read sandi's rules! Thanks Matt and Ralphy
