Prowl, I am still following along here. There are times I feel it is best for me to stand in the back and let those who have that shared experience lend comforting words. So it goes with other problems experienced, the people who "know" exactly what we are feeling are the ones we know can relate, and their comfort is cherished a great deal. I hope you saw how many people supported you through your darkest moments, and someone will always be around on the board. You are not alone.
It is always shocking to discover how low, selfish, thoughtless and hateful a wayward can become. After the LBS does the deep soul searching, they often see themselves as the bad guy. I am here to tell you that you are not a bad guy. Your W has lost her mind, in a sense of speaking, and each time she does some out of character behavior, it hits a very raw nerve. I think you will reach a place you may grieve for the girl she use to be and who loved you. But what I started out to say is that she is the one with this problem and sadly, nobody can help her until she's ready for it. In the meantime, please don't take the fall for what she has done and continues to do in the weeks or months to come.
((hugs)))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
