There were pictures with her friends from Chicago. She showed me receipts (don't ask me why) from where they went and when I met her for lunch told me I could talk to the girls about the trip if I wanted to (they work with her). She goes to work at the same time she always does comes home at the same time and doesn't go out with the exception with her friends this last weekend. When she has a day off she wants me to spend more time with her and tells me how much fun we are having.
I should have clarified that I was puking from the workout - not from our fight with her. I have read Sandi's posts and if I understand them you are to detach from the spouse and it is solely up to them if they decide to end the A.
I have made it clear that I am not interested in ML or anything for that matter until there is complete transparency. When I detach she goes off on me and tells me she is not going to do this with me. I tell her that I am not interested in an open marriage or being a back up plan.
W has told me that she feels that she cannot talk to me so I have been trying to do more listening than talking. She has been talking to me the last few weeks more than we have in a while.
I guess I am trying to find that middle ground and have the patients to see this out. When we had previous problems I could identify them and work on them. The previous 180's I am still doing and they have made me a better dad/husband/person. I continue to do these things, that is not the issue.
I am thinking that I should wait to talk until she reaches out to me and not be so accommodating. If she wants to talk to me I will continue to listen like I have been since she says this was an issue or do I stop this?
When I left for a few days she was genuinely happy when I came home and with the exception of yesterday the last few weeks have been drama free. Financially I cannot afford to move nor do I think I should. I have to accept and come to the realization that it is up to her and her alone to end the A. From what is posted here the spouse cannot change the W or her behavior.
