Hi Vanillia. Sorry I haven't posted for a while I hope you don't mind but I have a few observations
1. Your called lady V because that's what you are, a true lady Forget money or class structure. Ladies like yourself could be queens or tea ladies ( no disrespect intended to tea ladies). Your posts have a grace about them and your whole attitude makes you a true lady
2. You are pushing yourself WAY to hard. H is a mess , he's a liar ; hes twisted and not a healthy human being BUT he was your love. You will not get over that this week or next Let yourself grieve and accept that you loved H and couldn't see his faults and abuse.
3. And this is a biggie Health , health , health. !!!!!!! You can not push yourself as hard as you are and expect to stay healthy Vanillia , I have had the health issues and let go some stress You fins are not good but you will get there. Leave some creditors a little short , restructure debits and give yourself time. I picture you as a human Dynamo but that can't last forever Mental and physical health must come before all else If you continue to push as hard as you are , sickness will follow. Make time for you
4'. Vanillia appears to be dealing but have you any further contact re abuse I/C ? While support from all on this board is invaluable , there is a time and place for proffersional help I remember cost was an issue before but maybe even get on a list for public ?
5. I hope you remember that Vanillia had absolutely no input into H ad his issues Vanillias only problem in all this was that she was too caring and too vanillia like I see you look I g for answers and get an impression that you somehow feel that you should have seen what H was like sooner If I'm right then you must dismiss that from thought You were a caring loving W and supported H as you saw fit End of story We all see what we want at times and love is a force that takes over from reason as we all see on here
6. Thank you for being you. I've a few very goods friends on this board who have helped me through an incredibly trumatic time. You have always been there and given me sage advice and support throughout Thank you. If the WASs had half of what Lady V has none of us would be here
