. It pains me to not be on better speaking terms with you. I think maybe you are feeling defeated in this entire situation and feeling like I have been minimizing or dismissing your concerns, and it is causing you to shut down. So, I am hoping to better understand what I am not getting. The other things are just logistical things. I did not mean to stress you out by asking to sit down and chat.
Thoughts?
Hey BW, I understand your frustration here. One thing is clear to me is that your H does not want you to tell him how he feels. He has explicitly told you that...one of the few things I have seen that he actually has told you. I would make sure that you take that into context and right away make sure you STOP doing that.
I agree with the others that your H feels like he is not being heard...Make sure that when he does actually say something you are hearing him.
I would definitely keep the 'wanting to better understand part' because that is what you are after, but no more 'I think you feel' unless you are validating & repeating something that he absolutely has expressed to you.
