New here: Dealing w/MLC and emotional affair PA?

[kyrie]

I thought I replied but I don't see it.
Anyway, a 180 would be not doing things that seem like manipulation/controlling. Deactivating his cell would be controlling. He's really good at turning things around that way.
Bi-polar - sometimes it seems like it. He's in a fog - so its like that isn't it? I have some data, but again, hearsay since there's no witness to a physical act. I've spoken w/his dad but he doesn't want to be in the middle. His mom did this same thing when he was a kid so no help there.

I guess the 180 has me most confused. I'm trying to "detach" and not seem so needy/manipulative/controlling. But that also means not "doing" much of anything it seems. It sounds like I should stop talking to him about any of it.