Thanks Ralphy. I think this is a good approach to take.

Zues,
I'm sure that subconsciously being served triggered a finality in my understanding. I can try to persuade myself that it isn't over (and I know that it isn't) but sometimes it's difficult to ignore the cold reality that my STBX has taken finite and calculated steps when filing for D.

GB,
I knew you'd be disappointed. And while I don't think it's entirely fair to compare it against my STBX's previous actions, I do regret what happened. To be honest though, revenge wasn't a conscious motivation for me. Now, the source of my regret and motivations is a discussion for another thread.

To answer your questions, I do not have any way of contacting her. And I would tell my STBX about it if we ever found ourselves in a place of reconciliation in the future.

I am disappointed in myself because I wanted to be above reproach during this whole journey. Nonetheless, I will learn from this mistake going forward.


Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15