Thanks Ralphy. I think this is a good approach to take.
Zues, I'm sure that subconsciously being served triggered a finality in my understanding. I can try to persuade myself that it isn't over (and I know that it isn't) but sometimes it's difficult to ignore the cold reality that my STBX has taken finite and calculated steps when filing for D.
GB, I knew you'd be disappointed. And while I don't think it's entirely fair to compare it against my STBX's previous actions, I do regret what happened. To be honest though, revenge wasn't a conscious motivation for me. Now, the source of my regret and motivations is a discussion for another thread.
To answer your questions, I do not have any way of contacting her. And I would tell my STBX about it if we ever found ourselves in a place of reconciliation in the future.
I am disappointed in myself because I wanted to be above reproach during this whole journey. Nonetheless, I will learn from this mistake going forward.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15