Summer of Growth and Acceptance

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Zues, I am glad you think you understand my H, because I clearly don't and I am just growing more and more frustrated than anything. I feel like nothing I do or say is right with him and he probably thinks the same about me. I am not ready to give him ultimatiums. I just want to be on better speaking terms with H. I honestly cannot stand not talking with him. I thought I had heard all of his issues and frustrations with M and me and I thought/ think that he can't see that I get it because of A. But maybe I am just not hearing something.

I get what you are saying in you long post. What part of it do you think I should put in text to let him know what I want to discuss in person this weekend?

I was thinking the following:

Hi H,

I was hoping to chat with you via phone to give you a heads up about what I want to discuss with you in person this weekend. Mostly, I am frustrated with our current level of communication. It pains me to not be on better speaking terms with you. I think maybe you are feeling defeated in this entire situation and feeling like I have been minimizing or dismissing your concerns, and it is causing you to shut down. So, I am hoping to better understand what I am not getting. The other things are just logistical things. I did not mean to stress you out by asking to sit down and chat.


Thoughts?

Thanks for your input and rooting me on. It was nice to read that.