BH - we are all different. I do not think I will ever cease to care about my xh - we had a very long and very happy marriage. But he is not the person I married. We have three amazing adult children. Two of them have a limited relationship with their father, the eldest does not. What I don't want is false friendship.
If he genuinely wanted to try and repair the damage I would listen. Not to restore the marriage, but for the sake of what we had.
In my case however my xh simply wants me in his life as a sign that 'all is well', and that no harm was done. This is not true, and I can't relate to this pod person.
So, as things are, I am getting on happily with my life. If he genuinely changed and got through his crisis, I would know. His actions would show it.
