Z....I wish I could talk to you IRL. I feel the same emotions...its crazy. Ive debated on writing a letter, asking, begging, demanding some kind of explanation for her actions and whats going on...3 weeks ago she put her ring on for the first time in 10 months...now were getting D....was she really just using me for the money? Just like was your H really just in it for the settlement check? Or was there part of it that was real...i don't know.... =(

I guess to answer your question...Z...if you picked any of those options...and any of the outcomes...will it bring H back right now? To what end..give you closure? Are you sure that H will even tell you the truth? Will he even speak in a clear, level headed, honest to God this is how I feel manner?

I don't think so...I want the same things...if anything just an explanation, some closure on what is happening/happened...but even if she picked up the phone, I don't think she's in a state to even talk about it or would even tell me how she really truthfully feels. For me, this is the worst point in my situation...and although I am desperate to call her, text her, email her...ask her anything just to hear her voice and get some kind of explanation and closure from her..she just wont give me what i want..

I don't think writing a letter to your H will do you any good. I just doubt that your H is in a position to say anything to you that will make you feel better or ok with what happened.

i don't know if these things ever have happy outcomes. Right now I'm convinced it will for the other person but not for me. I guess we can just drive on and see what happens. Sorry if this response is cold/blunt/sad/insert word here. Thinking about you Z.


ME: 28
W: 24
M: 2.5yrs
T: 5yrs
BD: 22 SEP 14
W Leaves: 5 OCT 14